It’s ok to be scared of your dog.
I just want you to know, it’s ok to be scared of your dog. Please don’t feel bad about it. Accept it if you know it’s true. Some dogs are dangerous to be around. Without knowing what to do, you can feel like your always making it worse and always one step away from a huge disaster. You have a challenging dog, and you just need a little help.
I meet a lot of people who genuinely and honestly tell me that their scared of their dog. I feel humble when people feel they can share that information with me. A lot of these people believe that their fear is rubbing off on their dog and that their mere presence is unhealthy for their dog. When someone else takes the leash, you watch a polite, calm, cooperative dog walk off with your friend who they don’t even know that well and this just confirms your beliefs that it must be you. Something your doing, the way your feeling, etc.
I don’t believe your dog is a mirror for your emotions or state of mind. I have seen calm confident owners with out of control dogs, and I have seen frantic, not very assertive owners with completely chilled out dogs.
I believe that your thoughts and emotions affect your body language. Your dogs read your body language. They understand your body language extremely well and probably better than you do because they read it all day long apart from when your asleep.
This is what your dog picks up on so stop worrying that your just too nervous or too fearful to do anything to help your dog make progress. Instead, start practicing thinking thoughts that will send the right message to your dog. Worrying will result in the wrong message and bad/weak energy being passed to your dog.
Breathing, working on body posture, visualising and living in the now will help you achieve the right message and good/strong energy.
Please, if you have a dog you know your afraid of or feel you can no longer progress with, ask for help. You’ll be surprised at how just pushing yourself that little bit further will rub off on you and your dogs relationship.